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The Honolulu Advertiser
Posted on: Sunday, March 8, 2009

Mindset, balance are key to happiness

By Karen Shideler
McClatchy-Tribune News Service

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TAKE THE QUIZ

The Authentic Happiness Inventory Questionnaire and other happiness tests are at www.authentichappiness.org.

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INCREASING HAPPINESS

Having a glum day? Try one of these ideas:

1. Exercise. It's a great way to reduce stress, and aerobic exercise increases the release of endorphins.

2. Go to a funny movie.

3. Phone a friend who provides good social support.

4. Do random acts of kindness. People who perform good deeds or are around others who do tend to feel happier.

5. Express gratitude. Write a letter to someone who's done something nice.

6. Count your blessings. At the end of the day, write down three things that went well and make note of why.

7. Write about your life goals.

8. Come up with a way to use one of your special

talents.

9. Write about traumatic events. It can help you feel healthier and happier.

10. Put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you catch yourself in negative self-talk.

Source: Klaus and Buehler

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Are you happy? It's not such a silly question. Given the mountains of bad news around us, feeling down seems like a natural reaction, even if our own lives haven't been directly affected.

If you aren't sure, try the Authentic Happiness Inventory Questionnaire, at www .authentichappiness.org.

But can a quiz measure happiness, and can you do anything if you aren't feeling very happy?

Yes and yes, say two psychologists.

Nicole Klaus, an assistant professor at the University of Kansas medical school, says lots of research has been done on various ways of measuring happiness. The quiz is part of research by the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania. It's a field that Klaus finds "really, really interesting."

When something bad happens, she says, people typically overestimate how long they're going to feel sad. So "keeping things in perspective can be really useful" in bad times.

Darcy Buehler, of Affiliated Family Counselors, says happiness is "less a matter of getting what you want than wanting what you have. We are all blessed in so many ways ... but we are all focused more on things we don't have."

Our culture, she says, tends to equate happiness with financial success, even though research shows that "once you've met your basic needs, wealth doesn't really predict your lasting happiness."

Both say that maintaining balance in life — making sure to include activities that bring you pleasure — is key to not feeling overwhelmed by bad news.

"It's not the events in their life that creates their unhappiness," Buehler says. "It's the way they think about them."